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You already know what you feel. You've just gotten disturbingly good at overriding it.
I'm Tricia. For twenty years, I held both sides of my family together — a job that got handed down, not chosen.
Then I stopped.
I lost myself doing it. Losing the role was almost worse than keeping it — almost. Staying would have cost more, eventually, to everyone, including me.
What came out the other side wasn't just a recovery. It became a philosophy. Then a school. And now? This.
Turns out "handled" and "actually okay" were never the same thing. Nobody warns you.
This is where the pattern stops — and truly steady ground gets built instead.
A few things that happened along the way:
The Nervous Breakdown "I finally looked into my own biology. Generational. Never once named in my family."
▶ Watch: The Nervous Breakdown
The Expulsion "She expelled me. Best thing that ever happened to me. Also, extremely rude at the time."
▶ Watch: Getting Expelled by a Student of the Dalai Lama
The System "I built a philosophy, then a school. Turns out systems hold people together at a huge internal cost to the people inside them. Families are a system too."
▶ Watch: What a School Taught Me About Families
The Buck Stops Here
Somewhere back in your family line, the job of "holding it all together" got handed to someone. Maybe that was you.
No one asked. You just knew — the way you always know things you were never taught.
Here's what nobody tells you: the job doesn't end because you're exhausted. It ends because someone decides it ends. That's not a mood.
It's a decision, then a practice, then a whole new way of standing in your life.
This is how it actually works.
Most people start at The Oak Institute with a single experience — they're done depending on the external world to tell them if they're okay.
What follows is generally a four-movement arc:
Realization "Oh… this feeling means something."
Relationship "I can listen to this. And trust it."
Rooting "My life is organizing around what feels true."
Responsibility "I start shaping my life to support what I know."
Start here.
Steady Foundations
Sort the inherited from the real.
Not every instinct is yours. Some are hand-me-downs. This is where you learn the difference.
6 months. Small cohort. Monthly 1:1 included. $222.
Steady Landing
Notice what's actually yours — and how you're wired.
A single 60-minute session. We map your actual signal — how you're wired, what's yours versus inherited, and what's genuinely ready to shift.
60 minutes. $111.
Steady Ground
Test it, in front of people.
Witnessing is the medicine. Relationship is the testing ground. Deeper work than Foundations — this is where new ground gets pressure-tested.
6 months. Small cohort. Optional 1:1 add-ons. $333.
Steady Path
Stop needing the map.
The deeper practices my own teacher gave me — the ones I couldn't actually receive until years after she expelled me, and only once I'd learned to trust myself, instead of her. I wasn't ready then. I am now.
Skip the decade it took me to get here.
9 months. Small cohort. Monthly 1:1 included. $444.
About Tricia
I didn't start here. Almost nobody does.
The Job Nobody Handed Me
For twenty years, I held both sides of my family together. Nobody handed me a title. Nobody asked. I just knew — the way you know things nobody taught you, because someone has to, and it fell to me.
The Breaking Point
Then I became a mother, and had a full nervous breakdown. What used to work, stopped working. I spent years looking fine on the outside and quietly falling apart on the inside. That gap — between handled and actually okay — is where this work comes from.
The Expulsion
I studied under a direct student of the Dalai Lama. I understood everything she taught — and used it to build a calm that depended on her, not me. She noticed. She expelled me. Best thing anyone's ever done to me.
The Real Education
I have a degree in urban planning — systems, on paper. But what I really learned, over the years that followed, came from studying Hakomi somatic work, educational neuroscience, yoga, holistic health, and probably four other things I'd need a minute to list. All of it pointed to the same question: how do systems hold people together, and at what cost to the people inside them? I didn't know yet I'd spend the next decade asking that question about families. My own included.
Putting It Down
Eventually, I stopped holding it all together. Not gracefully. I lost pieces of myself finding out who I was underneath the job. For a while, I lost my family too — the cost of finally telling the truth about what the role had required.
What Came After
What came out the other side became a philosophy. Then a school I built on said philosophy.
And The Oak Institute exists because I stopped protecting a system that never once protected me back.
I'm not here to hand you a new role to perform. I'm here because I know what the old one costs — and what's possible once you put it down.
The Oak Institute is space to hear yourself again. A community built on clarity, clean communication, and relationship skill-building. Simple practices that help you trust what you hear.
Self-trust isn't the goal. It's the system we build together.
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